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Love poetry? You’ll love this book


This little poetry book landed on my desk yesterday, and because I just love poetry, I read it from cover to cover in under ten minutes.


This 21 page book is a delightful collection of poems written by Paul Benjamin, a Cape Town based labour lawyer.

The book is the result of Paul’s need to destress after demanding days at work and a love for verse which he shares with his son.

It all began with the enjoyment of reading Dr Seuss books together with his son, and culminated in writing a book of poetry inspired by fatherhood. In this book,  Dad, don’t go to work, Paul captures in verse his delight at sharing the world with his son. From family outings to cricket on the lawn and the heartache of saying goodbye, parents and children alike will love reading the clever little verses and sometimes funny, sometimes moving poems together.

The book is R75.00 in paperback or R49.00 if purchased as an e-book and a portion of the proceeds of the sale of the book will be donated to the following literacy initiatives: THE FUNDZA LITERARY TRUST and the GCINAMASIKO ARTS AND HERITAGE TRUST.


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Walk a little slower


I love this poem because I think we all need to make a concerted effort to live life at a pace our children can keep up with.

With holiday time looming and all of us working and living at a frantic pace, perhaps it’s a good time to be mindful of giving our time and attention to our little ones – even if it’s only for just a short time each day.

“Walk a little slower Daddy” said a child so small,
“I’m following in your footsteps and I don’t want to fall.
Sometimes your steps are very fast, Sometimes they’re hard to see;
So walk a little slower, Daddy, For you are leading me.
Someday when I’m all grown up, You’re what I want to be;
Then I will have a little child who’ll want to follow me.
And I would want to lead just right, And know that I was true,
So walk a little slower, Daddy, For I must follow you.”

– Author Unknown

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Dad’s Wisdom

Dads are usually more practical in their advice than moms. Very often they don’t dole out as much of it…but when they do, we know they mean it!

Here’s what some of the Living and Loving staff, contributors and friends said about the advice they got from their dads.

The best advice I got from my dad was: work on a budget and don’t buy on credit, rather save and pay cash for something you want. – Elsa de Beer (Living and Loving)


“He said that I would learn more from travelling than at any university. (I gave up university for a modelling contract that turned into 10 years of living in Japan.) The other was to question everything. He was a journalist and I never take anything at face value.” Zoe Fairbrother Straw (Model and friend)


“My dad always taught us to treat every single person with dignity and respect no matter who they are or where they come from.
And being the passionate Italian that he is- he also taught me to how to wrap my pasta professionally around a spoon and mop up the sauce with bits of chunky Ciabatta bread!” Tammy Jacks (Living and Loving)


“Pay your debts first”Ingrid Loud (Stylist and friend)


My father always told me I should be top of the class. “If you’re not top of the class then ask yourself why and do the work you need to do to get there.”were his words to me.

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To Dad, on Fathers Day


You are a man of few words, but when you speak your words are wise.

When I was young you always held my hand when we crossed the street. You made me feel safe.

You gave me everything I needed, but not too much to spoil me.

You didn’t tell me how important hard work is, you showed me.

You didn’t tell me I shouldn’t judge people by the colour of their skin, you set the example.

You weren’t always a perfect father, but I wasn’t always the perfect daughter.

You said you loved me…and I knew you were telling the truth.

Happy father’s day


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The ties that bind

My husband and my father-in-law love to watch rugby together. It’s their thing, it’s how they bond. So most big rugby days are spent with my in-laws (who I truly adore and love spending time with).

When my son was a baby, he used to cry (no actually scream in terror) when dad would yell at the television during the games. But now that the cheering and yelling doesn’t make Michael cry anymore, he loves sitting with his dad and “Oups”, leaping up when they do, yelling his approval and of course, letting Ouma wait on him hand and foot.

My daughter and I don’t share this enthusiasm for rugby, but we all cherish the traditions of this time together and we wouldn’t give it up for anything.

Oumie is the best cook in town and possibly also the best granny. She always puts out everyone’s favourite snacks and the children are never forgotten. We light a fire and open a few bottles of good red wine and we chat and share jokes which the children always re tell the next day.

I believe in traditions because they create memories, build shared family identity and give everyone a sense of belonging. So now that I’ve shared our family traditions, watch this space. On Monday I’m going to ask all our staff what their favourite traditions are and share them with you.

And remember – If all else fails, make Jelly!

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