With Mother’s Day being less than a week away, we wanted to share some of our favourite quotes about motherhood with you to celebrate all the fabulous moms out there!
One of our readers, Kaajal Philbrick, mom to Hermione (3) and Vihaan (1 month) recently send in a poem she wrote about what a typical day for a stay at home mom is like. She tells us what inspired her to write the poem and shares it with us to stick on our fridges at home as well.
“The poem is titled ‘Book club night’ as a group of us (moms) meet once a month for book club and we take turns to host the event. This night is often the only night we have off while our husbands or the grandparents take care of the children. Book club night is the one night we can just be a group of women and enjoy each other’s company.
I was inspired to write the poem when my husband asked me one evening after work what I did today. While I knew that I was very busy the entire day, I couldn’t think of a single ‘constructive’ thing to say. Later that evening when my daughter was in bed, I sat down and really thought about my typical day. I then wrote this truthful poem that documents the events in an ordinary day of a stay at home mom. I attached the poem to my November Book Club invitation and was pleasantly surprised by how many of my friends loved it and now have it pinned up on our fridges as a ready answer to anyone enquiring how our day was.”
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Five ways to show you love them this Valentines day
Children need to be assured of your love for them – everyday. When you think you’ve told them you love them enough, tell them one more time…
But just saying “I love you” is not enough. So here are a few things you can do that will be a constant reminder to your little ones of how much you love them:
Have a special name/names you call your child
It might sound silly, and some people are totally against pet names, but if you have a special/cute/silly name you call your child (term of endearment), this name will forever conjure up memories for her of special times you’ve shared. Use this special name when you’re having a cuddle, having some quiet reading time together and in times when your child needs assurance of the consistency of your love for her.
We all have an innate desire to be in control of our own lives and so does your child, no matter how old she is. Giving her a sense of power over her world is a gift – she will know that in the freedom you give her to make some choices for herself, you are telling her you love and trust her and want the very best for her.
Some parents worry that giving children choices is allowing them too much freedom and opening up opportunities for them to make mistakes. However, if you want to start letting your tot flex her independence muscles, give her a choice between three items in her wardrobe, not the entire wardrobe. Ask her whether she would like fish cakes, spaghetti or chicken soup for dinner. As your child’s ability to make choices grows you can expand the choices.
Something else we respond to as adults is knowing that we are being heard when we express ourselves. And it’s just as important – if not more important – to let your children know they have a voice in the world, that what they have to say is worth listening too.
Not only is listening to your child a great self-esteem booster, it’s also an opportunity to show your child that you love him enough to listen when he speaks.
When you can, sit with him (get down on his level), look him in the eyes and respond with understanding. Express joy when he’s excited about something and show empathy when he’s upset.
Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love and children probably need to be touched more than we as adults do.
A quick hug, a ruffle of your child’s hair, a squeeze of the shoulder and even holding hands are all ways you can communicate the constant presence of love.
Long cuddles and massage sessions are also wonderful ways of bonding.
Children want to hear about our lives as much as they want to share theirs with us. They long to hear stories about when we were young, they’re riveted by tales of what the world was like in the “olden days” and they also want to hear about it when you have a tough day at the office (not all the details) and when something exciting happens to you.
By letting them into your world, you allow them to feel a part of it and the flow of love between you easier and more natural.
It’s not always the obvious gestures that make the people in your life feel loved. Take care to find out what makes your nearest and dearest feel loved…and then spread the sweet, sweet love.
Enjoy the journey.
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This little poetry book landed on my desk yesterday, and because I just love poetry, I read it from cover to cover in under ten minutes.
This 21 page book is a delightful collection of poems written by Paul Benjamin, a Cape Town based labour lawyer.
The book is the result of Paul’s need to destress after demanding days at work and a love for verse which he shares with his son.
It all began with the enjoyment of reading Dr Seuss books together with his son, and culminated in writing a book of poetry inspired by fatherhood. In this book, Dad, don’t go to work, Paul captures in verse his delight at sharing the world with his son. From family outings to cricket on the lawn and the heartache of saying goodbye, parents and children alike will love reading the clever little verses and sometimes funny, sometimes moving poems together.
The book is R75.00 in paperback or R49.00 if purchased as an e-book and a portion of the proceeds of the sale of the book will be donated to the following literacy initiatives: THE FUNDZA LITERARY TRUST and the GCINAMASIKO ARTS AND HERITAGE TRUST.
I know we’re already seven days into the new year, but for most of us it’s the first day back at work or, at the very least, getting back into some sort of post-holiday routine.
I don’t know about you, but for me the mention of the word “routine” makes me think about getting organised. It’s the first thing I think about when faced with going back to work after the holidays.
Now, while I like to think I’m a fairly organised person, I’m always looking for ways to do things better and more efficiently. Like most moms, I’m busy. I juggle two children’s activities with a busy work schedule and I try to fit in time for friends, some time to exercise, and as much quality time with my husband as I can. So doing things efficiently is important so that I can do more of the fun stuff and spend less time on the grind.
I gave some thought to the things I do to stay organised (and sometimes forget to do, but know I should do because they DO work and they’re worth sharing) and I went looking for a few new ideas to up the ante on my organisational skills for 2013. Out of this, I’ve compiled a list of the top five organisational tips I think all moms could put to use:
5 top organisational tips that will help you make 2013 really count:
1. Make a to-do list every evening: jot down between 3 and 5 things you need to do the next day. Don’t waste time with the obvious things like cooking dinner or taking the children to school. You do those things anyway. The idea is to guide your thinking when your brain is in overdrive and you’re not sure what to do next.
2. Do the most difficult, challenging or unwelcome task first: by getting THAT thing out of the way, not only do you feel empowered to move onto the next item but you’ll get through the rest of your day with a lighter heart and you’ll enjoy the next few tasks more. If it’s going to gym, just do it. Go as early as you possibly can and you’ll feel amazing about what you’ve accomplished. If it’s a doctor’s appointment, try to make an early one.
3. Spend a little time now to save a LOT of time later: Yes, we all feel exhausted at the end of the day and our weekends are packed with shopping, running errands and possibly squeezing in a few social activities, but it’s a really good idea to set aside time to do a BIG tidy up at least once a month. Here’s how:
1. Drop the little ones off with a baby sitter.
2. Draw up a list of the room/rooms you’re going to tackle in the allotted time and what needs to be done.
3. Work quickly. Don’t dilly dally over each item. If you don’t know where it should go or have a place for something, set it aside and organise what you do have a place for.
4. Donate or throw away anything you haven’t used in a while. (Be honest with yourself. You know when you’re just holding onto something because you don’t have the heart to get rid of it. If you know you can find a new home for something, it may not feel so bad.)
5. Turn your attention to those items that don’t have a place. If you’re out of energy or time, place them in a box in the garage until you have a few minutes on another day to re look the items. Otherwise, take the items to an area of the house they should be and make a spot for each one. (The key is to find easily accessible places for items you use regularly so you’ll spend less time dreading getting down to the task and more time just doing them.)
6. You don’t have to tackle every room every month. Do one or two rooms a month until each big job has been tackled. After that, little maintenance clean outs are fine and a lot less time consuming.
You will be amazed at how much time you save when you’ve got a place for everything and you’re disciplined about putting things away once they’ve been used.
If you’re not the only person in your home using things, make sure everyone knows that they’re responsible for putting items away where they were found. This is something even fairly young children can learn to do and will go a long way to helping you keep an organised home.
4. Delegate: Learn to trust people with tasks in all areas of your life. For some this may need baby steps as it’s not easy to let go of the things we feel we need to control. Start by asking someone to complete a small or unimportant task for you and see how great it is when the task is done and you have a bit more time for really important things. Build up to more critical tasks as you learn to place your trust in others.
5. Write it down: When we’re busy, have lots of responsibilities, children tugging at our skirts and so many people demanding our attention, we forget things. Keep a pen and small notebook with you or find the MEMO function on your phone. As soon as you think of something you need to remember (even if it’s where you saw an item of clothing you’d like to go back to try on, a quote you want to type out and keep or a clever idea for a recipe) write it down so it’s not adding to the clutter of information accumulating in your head.
I hope you’ll find these tips helpful. The cleaning one may be a bit daunting, but the others are simple. Try them. You’ll be amazed at the difference they can make in your life.
Then focus on filling the rest of 2013 with all the fun stuff you didn’t have time for last year.
Wishing you a fab one!!
I love this poem because I think we all need to make a concerted effort to live life at a pace our children can keep up with.
With holiday time looming and all of us working and living at a frantic pace, perhaps it’s a good time to be mindful of giving our time and attention to our little ones – even if it’s only for just a short time each day.
“Walk a little slower Daddy” said a child so small,
“I’m following in your footsteps and I don’t want to fall.
Sometimes your steps are very fast, Sometimes they’re hard to see;
So walk a little slower, Daddy, For you are leading me.
Someday when I’m all grown up, You’re what I want to be;
Then I will have a little child who’ll want to follow me.
And I would want to lead just right, And know that I was true,
So walk a little slower, Daddy, For I must follow you.”
– Author Unknown