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Ways to show you love them

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Five ways to show you love them this Valentines day

Children need to be assured of your love for them – everyday. When you think you’ve told them you love them enough, tell them one more time…

But just saying “I love you” is not enough. So here are a few things you can do that will be a constant reminder to your little ones of how much you love them:

Have a special name/names you call your child
It might sound silly, and some people are totally against pet names, but if you have a special/cute/silly name you call your child (term of endearment), this name will forever conjure up memories for her of special times you’ve shared. Use this special name when you’re having a cuddle, having some quiet reading time together and in times when your child needs assurance of the consistency of your love for her.

Give choices
We all have an innate desire to be in control of our own lives and so does your child, no matter how old she is. Giving her a sense of power over her world is a gift – she will know that in the freedom you give her to make some choices for herself, you are telling her you love and trust her and want the very best for her.
Some parents worry that giving children choices is allowing them too much freedom and opening up opportunities for them to make mistakes. However, if you want to start letting your tot flex her independence muscles, give her a choice between three items in her wardrobe, not the entire wardrobe. Ask her whether she would like fish cakes, spaghetti or chicken soup for dinner. As your child’s ability to make choices grows you can expand the choices.

Listen
Something else we respond to as adults is knowing that we are being heard when we express ourselves.  And it’s just as important – if not more important – to let your children know they have a voice in the world, that what they have to say is worth listening too.
Not only is listening to your child a great self-esteem booster, it’s also an opportunity to show your child that you love him enough to listen when he speaks.
When you can, sit with him (get down on his level), look him in the eyes and respond with understanding. Express joy when he’s excited about something and show empathy when he’s upset.

Touch
Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love and children probably need to be touched more than we as adults do.
A quick hug, a ruffle of your child’s hair, a squeeze of the shoulder and even holding hands are all ways you can communicate the constant presence of love.
Long cuddles and massage sessions are also wonderful ways of bonding.

Share
Children want to hear about our lives as much as they want to share theirs with us. They long to hear stories about when we were young, they’re riveted by tales of what the world was like in the “olden days” and they also want to hear about it when you have a tough day at the office (not all the details) and when something exciting happens to you.
By letting them into your world, you allow them to feel a part of it and the flow of love between you easier and more natural.

It’s not always the obvious gestures that make the people in your life feel loved. Take care to find out what makes your nearest and dearest feel loved…and then spread the sweet, sweet love.

Enjoy the journey.

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Top tips for new moms

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I had to give one of my dogs a pill with her food this morning. While I was looking for a treat to help the pill go down without a fuss, I was reminded of the day we got them. They were two of the cutest little pups I’d ever seen. Their long floppy ears longer than their tiny bodies and I could hold them in the palm of my hand.

I took them off to the vet for their shots and a once-over and started asking questions about pet care, where they should sleep and what I could expect. I was clueless.

Having never owned a pet before I started looking for all the info I could find on puppies. I also phoned the vet several times a day for a week…I’m sure he thought I was a complete lunatic. In fact, what he probably thought was that he should phone the SPCA and get them to come and relieve me of my duties as a pet owner.

When I realised I’d exhausted the vet as a resource I turned to other pet owners for advice. I got some great advice and took and implemented most of it.

So what’s the point of my telling you this? Well, it’s that having a brand new baby is the same. Until the baby actually comes along, you don’t actually know what you don’t know and you’re not really sure how to prepare.

Suddenly you have a brand new baby and you’re terrified of making a mistake or of doing something wrong.

Here are 5 tips I’ve gleaned from a few new moms to help you if you’re in the first phases of motherhood:

1. Don’t bottle your feelings up. Tell someone if you feel afraid or like you’re not coping. It helps to talk and people usually do offer sensible advice or solutions to the things you’re feeling worried about. (Kath. Mom to Joshua 10 weeks old)

2. Leave the house! Meet a friend for coffee, ask your mom if she’ll go shopping with you or just go for a walk. I felt so lonely and trapped inside my house that I began to feel resentful of the baby. If I hadn’t been so worried about getting all packed up and taking Kiara out, I would have felt a lot happier and perhaps even bonded better with her. (Tammy. Mom to Kiara, 6 months)

3. Keep telling yourself you’re not alone. (Sam. Mom to Tayler, 4 weeks old)

4. Get someone to come in and help you. I didn’t have a full time nanny when James was born and I really struggled being alone with him during the day. My mom-in-law would come around once a week and it was always such a relief to have her there – someone else to hold the baby for a few minutes or help make a cup of tea. I’ve since learned she would have been happy to have come by every day. I wish I’d known. It would have been such a help for the first few weeks. (Karryn. Mom to James, 3 months)

5. Don’t sweat the small stuff. This is something my best friend told me and it’s the best advice I got. The most important thing is that your baby is fed, nappy changed and has somewhere to sleep. Bathing, playing and stimulating can wait. Just get to grips with the basics. The more relaxed you are the more you’ll enjoy your time with your baby and the more relaxed he will be. (Marty. Mom to Ethan, 10 months)

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Nothing else you have done will matter

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by | December 15, 2012 · 5:58 am

Walk a little slower

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I love this poem because I think we all need to make a concerted effort to live life at a pace our children can keep up with.

With holiday time looming and all of us working and living at a frantic pace, perhaps it’s a good time to be mindful of giving our time and attention to our little ones – even if it’s only for just a short time each day.

“Walk a little slower Daddy” said a child so small,
“I’m following in your footsteps and I don’t want to fall.
Sometimes your steps are very fast, Sometimes they’re hard to see;
So walk a little slower, Daddy, For you are leading me.
Someday when I’m all grown up, You’re what I want to be;
Then I will have a little child who’ll want to follow me.
And I would want to lead just right, And know that I was true,
So walk a little slower, Daddy, For I must follow you.”

– Author Unknown

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